Monday, August 25, 2008

The Truth

“There is something distinctly precious and unique about human life. In God’s estimation, it is so precious and so unique He commands that it must be protected, it must be preserved. It alone represents ‘the image of God.’ This precious human life is not to be treated violently by other human beings. The One who creates life certainly has the right to appraise it. Simply speaking, it is God’s way of saying, ‘Life is so important no one has the right to murder it. Don’t end it. Let it live. Because all humanity represents my handiwork; it is Mine to do with as I please. My image is, in mysterious ways, stamped into human life.” - Charles Swindoll

With all of the well wishes and congratulations that have been coming our way, we’ve heard our fair share of “Have you guys figured this out yet? Do you know where babies come from?” and the list could go on. While nearly 100% of these comments are coming from dear friends and family and are meant in a joking manner, those questions have been ringing loud and clear. Not because of the words, but because of a decision that Rahul and I made during our first year of marriage. One that I am almost positive few people know or understand.

So with some prompting from the Lord and some current information from a dear friend, I’ve decided to share with each of you a fact that revolutionized our marriage and thus, our family.

During one of our first semesters in seminary, Rahul and I were enrolled in an Ethics course. We had this incredible assignment of writing a 15 page paper on a “hot moral topic” plaguing the world today. I chose abortion, something I’ve always been passionate about since seeing the beautiful blessings of adoption lived out in my own family. As I began to pour over research and books, papers and scientific information I began to see a common 3 word term arising in much of the literature: birth control pills!

Confused and searching, I went down the halls of our married dorm to visit a counseling major, whom had also become a close friend. As if ordained by God himself, she pulled out her current research assignment, an entire paper on just that, the birth control pill. We started comparing our sources, researching more in depth and made a discovery that was both haunting and chilling, yet one that led to freedom and a more complete trust in the Lord than I had ever imagined possible!

My friend and I began a journey of discovery that day, one that led to a finding that blew me away and it may do the same for you: birth control pills do have the ability to cause early abortions. Yes, read it again. It’s true. Although I’ve had many discussions with doctors who will not budge despite the evidence, what we found on our ethical adventure so impacted my life that Rahul and I knelt before our Lord and prayed for guidance, strength, wisdom and trust as we removed the very birth control pill from our marriage.

This is why it hit so close to home. We never even considered doing a thorough study on this particular form of medication. Why? It was simply what you did when you got married. No church leader ever counseled us against it, we never heard it discussed in our Sunday School Class or amongst anyone in our circle of friends. Why? Because the truth is hidden, it’s buried somewhere in the standards of the world and sadly, it’s one of the biggest lies that we as Christians are fed.

Randy Alcorn has devoted a complete book to this topic entitled, Does the Birth Control Pill Cause Abortions. This quote is taken from him:

“In summary, according to multiple references throughout The Physician's Desk Reference, which articulate the research findings of all the birth control pill manufacturers, there are not one but three mechanisms of birth control pills:
1. inhibiting ovulation (the primary mechanism),
2. thickening the cervical mucus, thereby making it more difficult for sperm to travel to the egg, and
3. thinning and shriveling the lining of the uterus to the point that it is unable or less
able to facilitate the implantation of the newly fertilized egg.

The first two mechanisms are contraceptive. The third is abortive.

When a woman taking the Pill discovers she is pregnant (according to The Physician's Desk Reference's efficacy rate tables, this is 3 percent of pill-takers each year), it means that all three of these mechanisms have failed. The third mechanism sometimes fails in its role as backup, just as the first and second mechanisms sometimes fail. Each and every time the third mechanism succeeds, however, it causes an abortion.”

Furthermore, Alcorn addresses those individuals who deny such research:

“I have received a number of letters from readers, one of them a physician, who say something like this: "My sister got pregnant while taking the Pill. This is proof that you are wrong in saying that the Pill causes abortions-obviously it couldn't have, since she had her baby!"

Without a doubt, the Pill's effects on the endometrium do not always make implantation impossible. I have never heard anyone claim that they do. To be an abortifacient does not require that something always cause an abortion, only that it sometimes does.”

And that is just a brief synopsis! The evidence is staggering and alarming. I could spend so much time trying to put this information in my own words, but yet feel so inadequate to do so. That’s why I’m going to point you towards two amazing web sites that will provide you with all the information, statistics, scientific and medical findings, as well as a Christian perspective that you’ll need to begin your journey of understanding.

Finally, why did I share all of this?

Simply put because what we discovered reminded us that we are to honor God in every part of our life and that we are to trust Him in ALL things. It’s easy to give Him control over some parts of our life, while holding on to others. After all, we start to reason, that we know what’s best for us. But, we don’t. We never will. Thankfully, He does. And in our family He’s decided to bless us with four, and we’ve decided to trust Him and His timing, always.

I also shared because undoubtedly many of you have never heard. I’m not asking you to jump on board, I’m not writing this to judge, I’m not signing you up for natural family planning- I’m just asking that you prayerfully consider the evidence and allow God to lead you. I’m convinced that He’ll take you to a place that will bring Honor and Glory to Him. A place where you’ll find peace and freedom and you’ll begin to trust him with ALL!

Link One- Perspectives on Birth Control Pill

Link Two- Synopsis of Randy Alcorn's Book


Blogger The Lourceys said...

I'm so glad you posted this! My husband and I don't use birth control either. It's SO obvious to us that it's the Lord who gives life and not just chance...we haven't used it for a year and we don't have a baby, while others who do use it get pregnant all the time. Congratulations on your #4! I'm so grateful God decided to bless my mom with a 4th ;)

11:34 AM

Blogger The Agarwals said...

Thanks Emily for the congrats and your honesty as well! I too, am so thankful God decided to bless your mom with a 4th and our family as well!

12:08 PM

Blogger Alan said...

THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! I have had to explain this so many times to my family and friends. I find it so astonishing that many people, especially so many Christians trust in a pill...a chemical concocted by some pharmaceutical company, rather than the God of all Creation who knows us, and what we are able to bear, as well as what is best for us, Jeremiah 29:11. It is also important to note that some of these pills/patches have crazy side effects and increase chances of stroke or heart attack. Most have not been tested on a long term bases and there are some that have been pulled out of the market because of increasing medical problems in women. Not to mention: What's up with the randomly high infertility rate currently in the US...therefore bringing about more use of chemicals in fertilization treatment. Anyways, God bless you and all your little ones!!!!! Love you!!!

12:32 PM

Blogger dee said...


I did not use the pill before you were born,(and glad because we have you and 3 beautiful grandchildren and one more on the way) because a doctor told us you will never be able to have children, so in July of 1978 I was pregnant and was so excited... it was after you were born that the Doctors recommended the pill because of painful menustral cycles, this will help they said, no one ever told us what you have written. Nine years later the doctors say you know you shouldn't be on this pill they can harm you after nine years of use, go off for awhile and then go back on... so we again did what the doctors told us, and we were blessed with Bill....
You just have to follow your prayers....and God's decisions.

We love you and love your choices.. where would we be without you children?


12:40 PM

Blogger Heather Henderson said...

Annie, thank you for your post. I had heard this information several years ago, but when you are immersed in Bible College you sadly have to weed through the crazy rumors and false information. This one I have known to be true. But after our son Jack was born, (almost years ago!) despite birth control pills, we decided not to go back to them.
Thank you for this because I had been debating about going back to them. I love you guys and I am soooooo happy for you!

1:28 PM

Blogger nancarts said...

My dear Annie, you are awesome! I never used the "pill", and I can remember my mother-in-law, who was obivously from the older generation, saying "all those pills do is cause an abortion." I don't know where her info came from!? As you know we were blessed with three daughters. Each one was a surprise! We loved them all equally and thought them special in their own way. If I had chosen the "pill", who knows, I might never have had these three most wonderful, amazing, loving, precious, etc., great-grandchildren in my life! Thank you, Annie and Rahul! can't wait to see our #4! Love you all, Gran

4:56 AM

Blogger cornellfamily4 said...

I can't believe how God has shown me this in the past month. Since Will I have been getting migrane headaches a few times a month. I mentioned it to the Dr and of course he proscribed the patch. We had done the birth control thing once before for about 3 months. Anyway, I was about two weeks into it when I found out about this for the first time. We discussed it and Dub said to stop. I had never heard anything about the connection. It makes complete since to me. I have asked a lot of my friends if they had been presented with this before and none have. Thanks for the info. Just getting the word out truly makes a difference! CONGRATULATIONS! So happy for you and your family! Claire

1:34 PM

Blogger SouthAsiaRocks said...

I remember when we all decided not to use the BC pill... that was crazy! It was good timing for me too... Right when I was about to quit the pill I was starting to get blood clots (but didn't know until later) - crazy!

I'm so glad that you and J started to research the pill and learn all about it. I don't know if I told you, but the next semester when I took Ethics, I did my paper on "the ethics of the Birth Control Pill"...

I'm glad you wrote this, I think that so many people are afraid to say what they think about the pill because they are afraid of people's reactions.

About the comments people say now that you're preg again... we have a friend in South Asia that just had her 6th baby - people made all the same comments to her, but I was around her one day when she said to one person that said one of those type comments that was kinda the last straw for her... she said: "I'm sick of people saying those things - can't you tell that I just love kids!?" haha!

Anyway, congrats and great post :)

6:56 AM

Blogger David M. Staples said...

Heather and I chose not to use birth control either, rather letting God decide when we would have children. And we know for sure that HE dictated when our children were born. We always had a problem with the fact that pills would make a uterus an "uninhabitable place" - basically turning a woman's own body into a poisonous place for the embryo that made it past the pill's first line of defense. So I admire you both for that decision and for announcing that. The interesting thing is that God also made it very clear that we were done having children - when our Christian OB told Heather that she didn't think Heather should pursue another pregnancy due to the increasing risk of severe health issues. Congratulations to you guys. I'm sure that this child will be just as beautiful as the first three. And it may even look like Annie. Our third is blond and blue eyed.

7:18 PM


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